‘Failure’ or ‘Success’ (as these apply to you) are only matters of perspective – informed more by time than anything.
Let’s take getting a ‘good job’ as an example.
Plot twist: 18 months later you lose that job and you are again ‘a failure’
And so you will continue to ‘fail’ (i.e: negative self concept as a feedback loop)
So, disregarding the fact that the definition of success or failure is partly an illusion created by peer pressure and society and that there is no way you will ever really escape the clutches of the zeitgeist (or your peer group…)
All that matters is how you feel about yourself Now (since the present moment is all you have)
There are few ‘sure bets’ in life but change is one.
As is death.
(…and I have a hunch that you’ll take option 3)
That’s fine too.
Of course, this has all been said before: