Who relies on you?
Or needs you?
Or who finds you ‘useful’?
Do you know where you belong?
Belonging is a need, not a choice.
But what is belonging…?
A feeling of relevance, yes.
Fitting in seamlessly with your surroundings.
Like you should be there
Regardless of what your surroundings are like
Or how ‘bad’ you’ve got it in life.
Finding belonging and meaning is one of the most important things we can do for our own happiness…
Belonging to someone or something you love can make any situation tolerable.
People often seek belonging in a group in which they can make a meaningful contribution that others value. Be that in a job, a religious group or any other community, people will strive to find something to belong to.
‘Arriving at’ belonging often means that you have found the right place for you.
It’s why you can feel you belong in one place, but I might not.
It is one the most reasurring and rewarding feelings, and an excellent antidote to those deathly cold tendrils of loneliness, isolation and ‘the void’.
Afterall it’s easier to face that void with good people at your side, and having a meaningful significance to others can also validate your existence.
Because, big surprise, we’re not just here as selfish automatons.
We’re all having a collective experience. And collectively we can improve it.
This is one of the reasons I like to be helpful.
We need to remind others with our words and our actions that they belong too.
Because often they won’t tell us what they’re feeling.
And when we doubt ourselves or our sense of connection, we need others to do the same for us. We need to be clear if we’re starting to feel shitty and cut off. Because that can happen to anybody and we all know there are few things quite so bad as to suffer the feeling of being lonely or out of place.
Fuck that feeling.
I belong somewhere.
You belong somewhere.
Not necessarily in just the one place, and not necessarily in the same place.
And if you have yet to find it, you will spend the rest of your life seeking somewhere to belong, and something significant to belong to.